Hi there! My name is Stacey and I write The Bossy One. I thought that it was about time that I introduce myself.
So, what can I tell you about me? I'm a 27-year-old, freshly-minted lawyer. I hail from suburbia, but live in Toronto. According to my Bumble profile I like traveling, making other people's babies laugh on the subway and movie popcorn.
A few days ago, I posted on social media asking readers to submit questions for an introductory Q&A. Here are the answers to those questions, as well as some of the questions from my Q&A series!
Why did you start The Bossy One?
I started The Bossy One for a few reasons. Firstly, I love fashion and style blogs and felt like there weren't enough of them tailored to professional women. Secondly, I wanted to start a conversation about the challenges and rewards of being a professional woman. Professional women face all sorts of unique challenges when it comes to the working world because, in so many ways, it is created by and for men. That said, there are also a lot of really bad*ss #girlbosses out there doing their thing.
Describe your ideal career in five words.
Rewarding, challenging, creative, meaningful, interesting.
Describe your professional style.
My professional style is elegant and feminine. I almost always wear skirts or dresses, I love a good versatile blazer and I swear by the statement necklace.
What is your go-to outfit for work?
Work dress, blazer, pumps, statement necklace.
What is your favourite item from your work wardrobe?
My olive green faux-snakeskin Mila pumps from Ann Taylor. They are high without being ridiculous and very, very comfortable.
What is your take on tablets vs. laptops for business?
I use both. I prefer to draft and research on my laptop, simply because it's easier for me to type anything longer than a few sentences on a full keyboard. That said, tablets are perfect for days when you're on the move, because you can pop them into your purse or briefcase and avoid the extra weight (and long cords) of a laptop.
Unfortunately, I find that many traditional work environments don't keep up with changing technology. WiFi is not always available - for instance, many major law firms still rely on hard line connections - and companies refuse to secure tablets due to security concerns. It's a shame, since tablets (and other technology) have the potential to streamline a lot of business practices.
What is one trend that you consider inappropriate for the office?
Leggings. Unless you have a very casual Friday dress code, leggings are best left to the weekend.
Does it bother you when people use gendered terms like "bossy", "cute", "feisty" and "high-strung" to describe women?
The short answer is yes. Words like "bossy" and "cute" can be harmless (i.e. "ZOMG, what a cute baby!"), but should be avoided in the workplace. If it feels inappropriate to use a word to describe a man at work, you probably shouldn't use that word to describe a woman at work.
For instance, we rarely say that men are bossy. Men are opinionated, driven, direct, strong, assertive or powerful. The word bossy implies a certain pushy, overbearing quality that we don't associate with men. Do I slip up now and then? Of course. But do your best to catch yourself and use thoughtful language whenever possible.
If you could go back and give yourself a piece of career advice five years ago, what would it be?
Be flexible. Think of your career as a jungle gym rather than a ladder (I totally stole this analogy from Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In). Goals and career planning are an important part of moving forward, but give yourself room to grow and consider opportunities you never expected. It's rare to talk to a successful professional who anticipated exactly where they ended up.
Also, enjoy being a student. Real life is real.
Who is your career icon? Who is your style icon?
My career icon is Amal Alamuddin. International law and human rights lawyer who also counsels the UN? Yes, please.
My professional style icons are Amal Alamuddin (she's really killing it on all fronts) and Kate Middleton.
What is the last book you read?
Mindy Kaling's Why Not Me. IMHO it's funnier than Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me (and Other Concerns) - although points for the hilarious title. It's the perfect combination of funny celebrity stories, autobiography and #girlboss lessons. New favourite quote: "Why the f*ck not me?".